I HAVE BLOW JOBS ON THE BRAIN...AGAIN

There is something therapeutic about giving a blow job.

It can be as relaxing to me as anything.

To have someone at their most vulnerable, most intimate, most open is something that I think can be often overlooked. Yet, when you have your mouth around a cock, that is exactly what it is. He is trusting you. Sharing himself with you. Allowing himself to connect with you in one of the most intimate ways.

Yes, I realize that there are *other* aspects about it that men like. However, I am talking about ME and what I get out of it.

When I have heard girlfriends talk about not liking to perform oral sex on their man, I am baffled. WHY WHY WHY girls? What the HELL? You are missing out.

I was 13 when I gave my first blow job. Alarming, yes, I know. However, it was something that I immediately enjoyed, and has been something that I have continued to enjoy. On some level, it is sexually gratifying for me. No, there isn't an orgasm that comes from it, but most of us recognize that sometimes it isn't about the orgasm. I don't give them expecting something in return, and head has never been a reward to any man in my life for something well done. I overheard a couple bargaining at a party a few years ago...if he weeded the garden for an hour she would give him a blow job. WHAT THE HELL? Really? Is this really something that women think of as a REWARD? I don't get, nor will I ever get, the SEX AS LEVERAGE theory. If I am in a relationship with you, sex is sex. You get it. No matter what. I can be mad, tired, angry, hurt, but withholding sexual activity is not an option. And 99% of the time it can help the issue at hand anyway.

Swallowing has never been an optional activity for me either. Why WOULDN'T you swallow? Would you expect a guy to go down on you and experience NONE OF YOUR TASTE? No. Because he doesn't have a choice. I had a friend once tell me that she couldn't stand the taste of cum. S-E-L-F-I-S-H. Trust me, no two men taste alike. And I would be lying if I said that they were all equally as tasty. HOWEVER, different men kiss different. Different men have sex different. Different men perform oral on women different. SO YES, THEY TASTE DIFFERENT. To me, part of the thrill is relishing their unique flavor...and if it isn't a GREAT one, it is still pleasurable to me from all other aspects. SO WHAT if you take time doing something you enjoy and have to take a quick swallow of something that isn't amazing tasting? Deal. With. It.

The first time I was asked "Do you swallow?" I was truly perplexed. I looked at the guy and said "I didn't know there was another way." And I was SERIOUS. Yes, I was young, but still. Really? We have options? Bitch PLEASEEEEEEEEE.

Suck. It. Up.

Literally.